March 15, 2021

Fairy Tales and Wellness: Grounding Rituals, By Kate Wolford

Editor’s note: There’s a wonderful poem coming tomorrow, but for today, I thought you might enjoy reading the kind of reward Patreon patrons get to enjoy. I’ve also decided that today is a great day to inaugurate “Fairy Tales and Wellness,” an occasional series of enchanting ways to better your everyday life. In my non-fairy tale life, I teach meditation and write quite a bit about wellness. Today, I bring them together for the first time. Enjoy! And please, consider becoming a Patreon Supporter of EC. We are so grateful to those who’ve already started to support us.

Feeling rootless? Cast out? Unsure of where you stand with friends, family, work? Sounds like you may be in a “Snow White” phase of life. And you can get out of it a lot faster and better than Snow White, because you don’t need a prince.

You know the common story very, very well: Queen wishes for a daughter with skin as white as snow, lips as red as blood and hair as black as ebony. Her wish is granted, she dies, and eventually, Snow White gains a horrible stepmother who banishes her. After wandering wildly in the forest, Snow White finds and stays with the dwarves, who warn her repeatedly not to open the cottage door to strangers. She does anyway, and the Evil Queen, disguised as a peddler, tempts Snow White three times. The third time, which features the very symbolic bite of the apple, seems fatal, and Snow White is mourned by the seven dwarves who can’t bear to bury her, and keep her in a crystal casket. A prince comes along and in short order, Snow White is revived, rescued, and married.

There’s actually a lot more weirdness in the original story, and there’s a link at the end of this post if you’d like to read it. In any case, while we can learn from Snow White, her story has no happy ending for a 21st century person who needs some thorough emotional strength training. But elements of her tale can teach us how to ground ourselves and reach for happiness.

To begin, some questions, and you’ll want to jot down the answers.

Do you let negative, unkind people control your life (the stepmother) and do you ignore your own voice of reason and ignore advice from people who love you?

Are you feeling life is blowing you all around, with no rest, no place to settle? (Snow White lost in the forest)

Are you often fearful for no reason? Or do you ignore fear when you shouldn’t? (Snow White is pretty passive and makes no attempt to overcome fears, then opens the door to a peddler when she should be terrified. Talk about poor choices!)

Do you struggle with food? Eating too much? Too little? (That irresistible apple!)

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may be in a Snow White phase. Here’s how to fix it with a ritual.

To begin, banish the evil queens in your life. (They can be of any gender or age or role in your life.) It's as simple as a bath.

Put 2 cups of Epsom salts in a large bowl, and add three to five drops each of following essential oils: lavender for raising your spirits and soothing your soul, both of which strengthen you; lemon for cleaning people’s negative energy from your mind, body and spirit; myrrh, which is calming and strengthening and soul enhancing; and rosemary, which will help make you mentally strong and alert, but not hyper. Mix the oils and salts thoroughly.

(Note: If you don’t have all of the oils or don’t like some that are listed, use what you do have. It’s the intent that counts the most. And, if you’ve never used one or all of the essential oils listed here, dilute the oils in a carrier oil like olive oil, and test them on your skin for 24 hours to see if you are allergic, before using them in the Epsom salt bath.)

Next, pour the bath salts under warm running water and climb in and luxuriate. While you are bathing, close your eyes and envision yourself saying “No!” over and over to the evil queens in your life. Then just relax. Once you exit the tub, watch the water going down the drain and repeat, “Down you go!” Say it silently, say it loudly, but send those queens down the drain.

To banish free floating fears, poor choices, and struggles with food, body issues, and poor self esteem, stay in the bathroom after your bath. Towel off, then, without a stitch on, plant your feet firmly on the floor, look in the mirror and say over and over, loud and proud, “You are the fairest of them all. You are the strongest of them all. You are the bravest of them all. Your inner voice is wise.”

Make that magick mirror work for you! Spend a few minutes admiring your unclad self, with feet rooted on that bathroom floor, and repeating those affirmations. This will help you with poor body image, fearfulness, detachment, and lack of roots. For bonus points, have a ripe, red apple at hand, and eat that healthy fruit. Right in front of the mirror. Unlike Snow White’s apple, yours will be packed with goodness. Vow to eat one a day, to symbolize better eating and glowing health.

Here’s the third part: Once you’ve done your mirror affirmations, sit, recline or lie down somewhere comfy. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. It’s time to meditate on the good people in your life. The wise, the loving, the funny, the gentle, the strong, the loyal, the independent. Those are seven qualities for the seven dwarfs. The dwarfs in “Snow White” aren’t perfect, but they do love Snow White, they warn her about danger, and they give her a job keeping house all day, because everyone needs a purpose. On balance, they are a strong force for good.

Meditate on each of these qualities, or ones of your own that you desire, and raise the image of each person in your life who has one or more of them. You may have three people, who, together, have all of these qualities. Or maybe you have a dog that has two or three. Maybe you have no one, and that’s okay. Meditate on how you can meet new people. Even better, meditate on how you can develop these qualities yourself. Feel free to peek at the list if you lose track during your meditation. Be gentle, be kind. Love yourself. Know that this meditation exercise will take time.

After about 10 minutes of meditation, open your eyes, stretch, and hug yourself. You are you. You are not Snow White. You are strong. You are moving on.


Image by Amanda Bergloff.

“Snow White”, by Jacob and Wilhem Grimm, 1812.


Kelly Jarvis said...

Love this new wellness series! <3

mama gnome said...


Carole Lane (weave) said...

I like the concept of banishing the evil Queens from your life. Many people today do not have a bath in the house - only showers, as it does not waste water, so one would need to adapt this. I don't have one but I like the concept and could adapt it to my surroundings. This is a wonderful way to tap into ones securities with the aid of Fairy Tales etc. It also aids one to look more to them to aid in one's journeying through life. I also think it interesting that Snow White was seen to be dead thrice. There is a link here to older tales. Anyway, thought provoking.

Katew said...

Thank you for such a thoughtful response!

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